Hi Friend, I’m Susan!
I’m so glad you took time out of your busy day to stop by The Empowered Mom Club to get to know about who we are. I can’t wait to get to know you as well. In an ideal world, we’d meet over coffee and just chat away but we live in a real world where that’s not always possible. And that’s okay because there is no distance when you find someone who gets you, understands your struggles and can relate to your season of life and motherhood. I want to hear about your story of motherhood. We all have a story about motherhood; the good, bad and ugly.
Don’t get me wrong, motherhood is a beautiful journey filled with breathtaking moments that are engraved in our memories for a lifetime. But it sure is a hard season too and can feel like a roller coaster ride of ups and down. Motherhood is tough and it’s not for the faint of heart. So please don’t go it alone. Not without a friend to encourage and support you in this sacrificial, selfless and sacred calling of motherhood.
That’s what The Empowered Mom Club is all about. A community where Moms from all walks of life and in any season of motherhood, can gather, find community, belong, learn, grow, encourage and support each other. If that’s what you’re looking for, then what are you waiting for? Join us and I hope you find encouragement here or a friend who would walk with you through the good, beautiful, challenging and hard seasons of motherhood.
I’m a physician, wife and mom of 3 adorable and energetic little ones. Life is busy, with crazy schedules, hectic days and most times than I’d like to admit, things are out of control. And for someone who likes to be in control, or seem like I have it all under control, I have wrestled hard to juggle it all for so long. That is, be a good wife, a great mom and an outstanding team member at work.
Before I tell you more about my own journey of motherhood. I’d like to do one thing first, take my physician hat off completely and free both you and I from the pressure of unrealistic expectations and presumed assumptions. And quite honestly, our profession doesn’t define who we are nor does it determine whether we’re a good mom.
So here on The Empowered Mom Club, I’m just a mom who is juggling and wrestling each day with the demands of motherhood just like you. So trust me, I get it and know the struggles we face in motherhood too well. Because like you, I’m a mom who has to prepare meals for her family, be a housekeeper, laundress, chauffeur, teacher, judge, counselor, nurse sick kids, activity planner, birthday party coordinator, the list is endless for the roles that moms play every day.
ABOUT MY OWN MOTHERHOOD JOURNEY
“Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth”. Psalm 127:4. The bible calls you and I, a “Warrior” whether we feel like it or not. And our children are “Arrows” that we’ve been given the great responsibility to shape and launch into the world. To be a light in the world for the Glory of God. No wonder the enemy attacks Moms so fiercely because we have tremendous impact on the next generation of world changers.
Becoming a wife and a mom to my three little precious blessings is one of my greatest joys in life. But I had no idea, did not expect and was not prepared for the rocky road ahead in my motherhood journey. It has certainly been quite a journey. One filled with beautiful yet painful moments all that the same time. It has challenged me, stretched me and humbled me more than I could have ever imagined. Can you relate?
Like most of us starting out in our motherhood journey, we are excited and think we can do it all. I thought I was “superwoman” and could do it all. Be a good and loving wife. A good mom who is present and engaged with her kids. And also, be good at my profession as a physician with the immense commitment that it requires.
I got to a place in my journey, where I literally felt as if I was drowning and suffocating in all of the obligations and responsibilities that I was committed to or that I thought were expected of me by others. I was overcommitted and overwhelmed. Expended and exhausted. Worn out and burned out. Stressed and stretched too thin. Running on empty, out of breath and on edge. Depleted, defeated and depressed. Anxious, frustrated and restless. I had no idea, did not expect and was not prepared for where my choices in this journey had led me.
I realized that I had been trying to do it all on self-effort and self-reliance. Relying on my knowledge, ability and strength and it was very exhausting. I was at my wits end and had nothing left to give. I was unhappy and miserable and it spilled over into my family life. I wasn’t enjoying life as mom, my relationships suffered and even my work which took up so much of my time. I felt helpless and so alone.
This was a pivotal moment for me because I knew that something had to change. I am a Christian and Christ follower and I trusted in God to guide me. But I was clearly not listening or adhering to His Word because I was too busy running from one task to another with an overwhelmed schedule and a weary soul.
Realizing that I couldn’t do it all was probably the lowest moment of my life. It was a humbling truth that I had wrestled so hard to admit but I had to be truly honest with myself. I couldn’t do it all on my own. I had to stop running and pause to consider what was going on in my own soul.
I had to let go of my expectations about motherhood and completely lean on the Holy Spirit to strengthen me to do the most important tasks. And rely on the infinite wisdom of God to guide me in the commitments that really matter. That has certainly put my weary soul to rest.
FOR YOU, MY FRIEND
My prayer and hope is that, you too would stop running from task to task and pause to consider what’s going on in your soul because it’s only then, that you will find rest in Him.
Before you go, thank you again for stopping by. I truly appreciate it! I want to invite you to join our community of Empowered Moms as we rely on God’s Wisdom and Strength to help us navigate our calling as Moms with Grace, Joy, Freedom, Purpose, Resilience and not just survive but Thrive in Journey of Motherhood.
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Susan Egbe-Tanyi, MD is a wife, mom of three adorable kids, a board certified Family Medicine Physician, founder and blogger at The Empowered Mom Club and a servant at heart. She’s a graduate of Ross University School of Medicine and University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center, and lives with her husband, Paul, and their three children in Charlotte, North Carolina.