No one can get through life without facing hard things.
Yet sometimes in the midst of these hard things we question God. In recent years our family grew by seven children as we adopted them from foster care. After lots of prayer, John and I knew we were to grow our family in this way, but in the midst of the hard things, I questioned God. Why does this have to be this hard? God, where are you? I wanted God to make things better … as soon as possible. But things continued to be hard for many years. Have you asked God to change your circumstances? Have you questioned him when the answer was No? Here are a few things I learned about God in the hard stuff:
1. God is at work in the world and at work within us.
God allowed the hard stuff for my transformation. God didn’t allow hard circumstances to make me miserable, yet He knew hard circumstances would teach me better how to die to self and become more dependent on Him in every area of my life. This betterment was for my good.
As Philippians 1:6 says, “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”
2. God is full of compassion, and He desires us to find true healing.
I knew parenting traumatized kids would be difficult, but I underestimated the challenges. There was anger and acting act. Not a day passed without a battle. I also underestimated my kids’ pain and trauma. Yet because things were hard, I sought help from therapists and counselors. I also found new ways to build bonds with my kids and learned to be the mom they needed. If things had been easier, we would have just tried to deal with it. Instead, because things were so hard we found the help my kids needed to heal.
3. God is available for every need.
Because things were hard I prayed … a lot. And as I prayed God showed up in many ways. There were times when I sat on the floor next to an angry teen and saw her calm as I prayed. Needs were met. My kids prayed, and I saw their prayers answered, too. I learned that when we get to the end of ourselves we often see God show up in specular ways.
4. God has a plan for our children’s spiritual growth, too.
Often, we point to the heroes of faith in the Bible, hoping to grow our children’s faith, but maybe God wants US to be a hero of faith in our kids’ lives, too. What our kids learn from us will prepare them for life, and when they see us turning to God in the hard stuff our kids will learn to do the same.
Facing hard stuff? Trust God even then. Do not let your confusing or challenging circumstances change your opinion about God. The circumstances we face, though they may be confusing, challenging, even painful, have no impact on God’s love for you or change the fact that He is at work around you. He is also at work in you and in your kids too. When things get hard trust this. Trust him.
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